As a collaboration between Women’s Development Cell, Miranda House and Breakthrough India, a series of love letters was written to our beloved, ‘Patriarchy’.
I’m honored that my letter was posted on their website.
I’m good with words, but not words of love. I have never before written something romantic. However, I have been asked to send you a ‘love letter’ today, so I’m going to try.
Share this letter with a few people.
Share this letter with all of my guy friends who thought it was okay to ask me if I am ‘on my period’ every time something they said offended me.
Share this letter with all the elders who told me “well done on getting a good college, but you need to be careful of all those boys out there in the campus.” I really thought I shouldn’t be questioned on what I’m wearing because honestly, I just grabbed the first thing I could put my hands on at 7 in the morning.
Share this letter with all those random boys who thought it was okay to look at me up and down and scrutinise me in and out and then whistle.
Share this letter with all those people in the ‘fair and lovely’ ad who gave the young, innocent me unrealistic expectations about beauty.
Share this letter with all those who thought labelling someone a ‘lesbian’ or calling someone ‘gay’ is an insult.
Share this letter with the conditioned girl in me who felt inferior every time her best friend got asked out and she wasn’t, because you taught her that that is the measure to her prettiness.
Finally, share this letter with all those people who told me I’m too fat every time I wanted to wear a dress or a saree, and that only slim girls should wear that stuff.
Thank you, patriarchy. You taught me a lot more than I thought you could given that you’re something that should have been non-existent!
Every other human in the world.